How’s Your Self-Care?

Taking care of ourselves is often the last thing on our minds, though we all generally know that it’s more important than ever. We have to meet that deadline, use break time to run errands, accomplish all the items on our list. We all know the negative impact on our health that stress can have—so,Continue reading “How’s Your Self-Care?”

Uncovering Your Limiting Beliefs About Money

In the face of money issues, such as chronic debt, it can be tempting to throw up our hands in powerlessness or blame others for the problems we face. Yet, if we’re willing to look at our own beliefs about money, we may find that they’re getting in the way of a sense of well-beingContinue reading “Uncovering Your Limiting Beliefs About Money”

Can This Relationship Be Saved?

Angie and Darrell have been married for 14 years and have three children. One day, after taking their son to school, Angie spotted Darrell in a coffee shop holding hands with another woman and whispering intimately. She felt as though the ground was slipping away beneath her. How could this be happening? How would theyContinue reading “Can This Relationship Be Saved?”

Guilt as a Form of Feedback

Like a baton in a relay race, guilt is handed on from person to person. Each generation receives it and passes it on to the next. Parents, teachers, spouses, businesses, governments, and religions have used it—consciously or not—for behavior modification or punishment. It is such a part of the fabric of our culture that weContinue reading “Guilt as a Form of Feedback”

Increase Your Inner Strength to Thrive in Challenging Times

Catastrophic events like hurricanes, fires, earthquakes and floods can knock us to our knees. But personal catastrophes can pack an equally powerful punch. Our spouse is diagnosed with cancer, our son has a mental breakdown, we lose our home. Often these events seem to come out of nowhere and feel completely unmanageable as we struggleContinue reading “Increase Your Inner Strength to Thrive in Challenging Times”

How to Counter Your Inner Critic (When It Becomes Lethal)

The Critic is a common and unfortunate constant in our inner lives. This internalized voice assumes the tone and language of our mother, father, religion and/or society. After every step forward there it is, doubting or damning our choice. But for many people, “critic” is much too mild a word. The voice they hear isContinue reading “How to Counter Your Inner Critic (When It Becomes Lethal)”

Are Your Beliefs Affecting Your Mental Health?

Beliefs or assumptions about people, places and things can be automatic. It’s likely a throw-back to our reptilian brain, which constantly scans to see if we are safe or in danger. Some assumptions are useful and necessary—such as assuming that night will follow day. However, other beliefs and assumptions can undermine our well-being, our levelContinue reading “Are Your Beliefs Affecting Your Mental Health?”

10 Ways to Truly “Show Up” for Therapy

To be proactive in your own growth and development, you have to do more than just physically attend therapy sessions. Here are some additional ways to show up. 1. Know what you want. How do you want to feel? How will you know you’re improving and growing, or when you’re ready to stop? 2. ListContinue reading “10 Ways to Truly “Show Up” for Therapy”

Couples Unbalanced: The Dangers of Too Much (or Not Enough) Closeness

Two people fall in love and from that moment on, they go every- where and do everything together. They are a perfect match sexually. Their interests and values coincide in every respect. They are inseparable. This is how love goes…right? Well, no. This is the myth of being a couple: two lives merge into oneContinue reading “Couples Unbalanced: The Dangers of Too Much (or Not Enough) Closeness”

10 Paths to Mutual Respect and Genuine Intimacy

A good marriage is created when each spouse appoints the other as “guardian of his/her solitude,” to quote a line from a poem by Rainier Maria Rilke. And it’s this kind of committed partnership that forms the basis for mutual respect and genuine intimacy. Here are 10 ways to contribute to the development of thatContinue reading “10 Paths to Mutual Respect and Genuine Intimacy”