To be proactive in your own growth and development, you have to do more than just physically attend therapy sessions. Here are some additional ways to show up. 1. Know what you want. How do you want to feel? How will you know you’re improving and growing, or when you’re ready to stop? 2. ListContinue reading “10 Ways to Truly “Show Up” for Therapy”
Two people fall in love and from that moment on, they go every- where and do everything together. They are a perfect match sexually. Their interests and values coincide in every respect. They are inseparable. This is how love goes…right? Well, no. This is the myth of being a couple: two lives merge into oneContinue reading “Couples Unbalanced: The Dangers of Too Much (or Not Enough) Closeness”
Maribel loves her job and her boss. The only thorn is that her boss prizes punctuality and Maribel just can’t seem to be on time for anything, whether it’s a team meeting or that project that was due last week. When he was a boy, Alec vowed he’d never be a father like his ownContinue reading “Defeating Our Self-Defeating Thoughts”
Michael doesn’t walk, he swaggers. He doesn’t talk, he commands. When his children and friends head for the exit, he figures they just don’t have the guts to handle such a big, important man. But he has an ulcer and he can’t sleep. Lately, he’s been having nightmares about being trapped. Deep, deep down, he’sContinue reading “How to Turn Fear and Vulnerability Into Strength and Empowerment”
We want to help our children when they come to us with a problem. So we console, interpret, advise, distract or praise. Or we interrogate, lecture, moralize or order. We might even blame, criticize, ridicule, shame or withdraw. However, all of these responses are problematic—whether with our children or with the adultsin our lives. TheyContinue reading “Take the Quiz: Are You Unwittingly Hindering Communication?”
A good marriage is created when each spouse appoints the other as “guardian of his/her solitude,” to quote a line from a poem by Rainier Maria Rilke. And it’s this kind of committed partnership that forms the basis for mutual respect and genuine intimacy. Here are 10 ways to contribute to the development of thatContinue reading “10 Paths to Mutual Respect and Genuine Intimacy”
We all have regrets. Big or small, recent or rooted in a long ago incident, these are regrets we mostly wish we didn’t have. We wish we hadn’t made that choice, taken or not taken that life-changing action, behaved that way. But perhaps we should not wish them away so quickly. Regret, according to NealContinue reading “Open the Door to a Fresh Start”
Every death is different, and every relationship is different, which makes the experience of loss and grief different for everyone. Grief is a journey, and when someone dies, those of us who mourn will take that journey in a unique way. It’s a journey through some of the most emotionally intense and painful passages ofContinue reading “Getting Through Grief”
Substance abuse doesn’t always announce itself with a staggering gait or red eyes. Here are some often-missed clues that someone could be struggling with an addiction. 1. Lying and promise-breaking. These include the oft-made (and bro- ken) promise to “never do it again,” whatever “it” is. 2. Recurring financial difficulties. Repeated money crises, a lot ofContinue reading “10 Hidden Symptoms of Substance Addiction”
The level of joy you experience is often a direct reflection of the degree to which you’re living the life you want to be living—what many call “living your dream.” That dream could be as small as “I always wanted to be a dad” or as large as creating a one-person show and taking itContinue reading “What’s Your Joy Quotient?”
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