How’s Your Self-Care?
Taking care of ourselves is often the last thing on our minds, though we all generally know that it’s more important than ever. We have to meet that deadline, use break time to run errands, accomplish all the items on our list. We all know the negative impact on our health that stress can have—so,…
Uncovering Your Limiting Beliefs About Money
In the face of money issues, such as chronic debt, it can be tempting to throw up our hands in powerlessness or blame others for the problems we face. Yet, if we’re willing to look at our own beliefs about money, we may find that they’re getting in the way of a sense of well-being…
Can This Relationship Be Saved?
Angie and Darrell have been married for 14 years and have three children. One day, after taking their son to school, Angie spotted Darrell in a coffee shop holding hands with another woman and whispering intimately. She felt as though the ground was slipping away beneath her. How could this be happening? How would they…
10 Ways to Avoid Self-Growth
Personal growth can be scary. So it’s natural to find yourself avoiding it. Here are 10 ways that can happen and how to embrace the changes of self-growth instead. 1. Denial. It’s difficult to grow when you don’t see the need. Listen to the quiet voice inside and to what your loved ones are saying.…
Guilt as a Form of Feedback
Like a baton in a relay race, guilt is handed on from person to person. Each generation receives it and passes it on to the next. Parents, teachers, spouses, businesses, governments, and religions have used it—consciously or not—for behavior modification or punishment. It is such a part of the fabric of our culture that we…
Increase Your Inner Strength to Thrive in Challenging Times
Catastrophic events like hurricanes, fires, earthquakes and floods can knock us to our knees. But personal catastrophes can pack an equally powerful punch. Our spouse is diagnosed with cancer, our son has a mental breakdown, we lose our home. Often these events seem to come out of nowhere and feel completely unmanageable as we struggle…
How to Counter Your Inner Critic (When It Becomes Lethal)
The Critic is a common and unfortunate constant in our inner lives. This internalized voice assumes the tone and language of our mother, father, religion and/or society. After every step forward there it is, doubting or damning our choice. But for many people, “critic” is much too mild a word. The voice they hear is…
Are Your Beliefs Affecting Your Mental Health?
Beliefs or assumptions about people, places and things can be automatic. It’s likely a throw-back to our reptilian brain, which constantly scans to see if we are safe or in danger. Some assumptions are useful and necessary—such as assuming that night will follow day. However, other beliefs and assumptions can undermine our well-being, our level…
10 Ways to Truly “Show Up” for Therapy
To be proactive in your own growth and development, you have to do more than just physically attend therapy sessions. Here are some additional ways to show up. 1. Know what you want. How do you want to feel? How will you know you’re improving and growing, or when you’re ready to stop? 2. List…
Couples Unbalanced: The Dangers of Too Much (or Not Enough) Closeness
Two people fall in love and from that moment on, they go every- where and do everything together. They are a perfect match sexually. Their interests and values coincide in every respect. They are inseparable. This is how love goes…right? Well, no. This is the myth of being a couple: two lives merge into one…
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Joan Ferdinand Keleher MS, LCPC 