It can be challenging to keep the sexual spark alive in a marriage or a long-term relationship. But the couples that do so will reap the reward of being more connected—not to mention feeling more playful and more physically healthy! Take the quiz below to find out if you have a thriving sex life.
True False?
1. I am able to articulate my sexual needs to myself. I know what I like and what I don’t like.
2. My partner and I communicate in an open and loving manner about most things that matter to us.
3. I communicate my likes and dislikes to my partner. I don’t expect him or her to “just know” how to please me.
4. Without judgment or embarrassment, I talk openly and fearlessly with my partner about my thoughts and feelings about sex.
5. I share my sexual hopes, dreams, and aspirations in an intimate manner with my partner.
6. I avoid making assumptions about what does and doesn’t turn on my partner. I ask for feedback and guidance.
7. Experimentation and play are key elements in my sexual relationship.
8. I have realistic expectations of my partner and I avoid being overly demanding.
9. I enjoy having sex with my partner on a regular basis.
10. I look forward to having sex with my partner and do not see it as a chore or obligation.
11. My partner and I make time for sex and don’t allow it to end up on the backburner.
12. I leave unexpected notes and surprise gifts for my partner.
13. Foreplay is an integral part of my sex life.
14. My partner and I are able to embrace and incorporate each other’s turn-ons in a healthy and loving manner.
If you marked true on most of the questions, your sex life is likely healthy and vibrant. If you marked “false” on most of the questions, don’t worry. Cultivating a loving sexual relationship with your partner is possible. Consider honing your communication skills as a first step towards a healthy sex life. If you have questions or want to talk about your or your partner’s response to this quiz, please don’t hesitate to call.
Joan Ferdinand Keleher MS, LCPC 